As a parent or caregiver of a child with autism, it is common to experience meltdowns from
time to time. They are especially common during times of stress or change which can be
overwhelming for both the child and the caregiver. Knowing how to handle a meltdown and
helping your child calm down is important. Here are 6 ways to help calm down a child with
autism during a meltdown:
1. Stay calm yourself
Try your best to stay calm and composed during a meltdown. Your child can sense your
emotion and the situation can worsen if you become upset or overwhelmed. Position yourself
lower than the child for example if the child is standing down next to your child take a few
deep breaths( placing your hand on your heart) can help you stay calm.
2. Remove your child from the situation
Remove your child from the situation, especially in a public space. Take them outside, to a quiet
room, or a space that is familiar to them. This can help your child feel more comfortable and
secure. If it is indoors cutting out excess stimuli by the use of a sensory tent may be very helpful.
3. Use sensory tools
Many children with autism respond well to sensory tools. Providing a weighted blanket, a fidget
toy, a plushie, therapy-grade essential oils, or sound-canceling headphones can help provide a
grounding effect and help calm them down. Some children also respond well to visual aids, such
as rapid picture naming or calming sensory lighting.
4. Speak in a calm and reassuring tone
During a meltdown, it can be hard for a child with autism to process words. Therefore, speaking calmly and
reassuringly will let them know they are safe and you are there to help them and not reprimand
them. This will help them calm down.
5. Provide deep pressure
Some children with autism respond well to deep pressure. A tight hug, a gentle massage, or a
deep pressure squeeze can help calm them down. Stay with your child and provide reassurance
as they work through their emotions.
6. Allow your child to stim
Stimming is a self-stimulatory behavior that many children with autism use to regulate and
manage their emotions. Allow your child to stim safely and appropriately, such as tapping or
rocking. This helps them to calm down because their attention is focused on stimming rather
than their emotions.
Conclusion
Meltdowns can be overwhelming for both the child and caregiver, but there are ways to help
your child calm down. By staying calm and using sensory tools, speaking in a reassuring tone,
providing deep pressure, allowing your child to stim, and waiting for the meltdown to pass, you
can help your child regulate their emotions and move forward.
Remember to stay patient, be understanding, and provide a safe and supportive environment
for your child to work through their emotions.